If I’ve seen it once I’ve seen it a thousand times. I treat a screaming baby for reflux. At follow up two weeks later mom says baby’s better, dad says he isn’t. Or visa versa. How can this be since they both live with the same baby?
It’s in the expectations. Expectations explain why we might hear differing opinions on the same baby. The baby may well have responded to my treatment. But recognizing that no baby is perfect, mom identifies the change from bundle of misery to just fussy as progress. Dad’s expectations of a placid baby aren’t met and he thinks there’s no change.
This human experiment that plays out every day in my clinic tells us a lot about ourselves. How we view our disease or our baby’s disease defines our experience. And as parents we define our children through our expectations.